Here we are first month of the New Year behind us. This is the time we begin to review those New Year’s resolutions we made a couple months ago. So how are you doing with that diet, working out at the gym or not stressing out so much? Yep for most not so good. We make all these resolutions about stuff but how many made resolutions regarding your marriage? That stings… So busy trying to capture the youth of yester-year we forgot about our marriage. It’s funny to songs come to mind sung by the Bee Gees. Is your marriage just Staying Alive? You might be on track and your song is How Deep is your Love.

Whatever your song is 2014 can be the best year yet for our marriages. Your marriage is a living organism. If you do not water and fertilize your garden it will die. Marriage takes work, hard work. Many believe the best has already come and gone. I for one do not believe that for one moment. As I stated before I believe the best is yet to come.

I read an interesting article on marriage called Five Ways to Grow Closer to Your Spouse in 2014. It was written by Cindi Mc Menamin. Cindi and her husband set out to make goals for their marriage. They asked one another five questions…

  1. What did you most enjoy about our dating days?
  2. What do you wish we could do as a couple that we rarely or no longer take the time to do?
  3. What have you always wanted to do, as a couple, that we haven’t yet done?
  4. Where would be the ideal getaway for you and me to go someday?
  5. What, specifically, would you like to see us accomplish together the next year?

I liked what Cindi and her husband came up with. Heavy stuff to consider for sure. It reminded me we have to choose to make our marriage a priority. Like that garden, if it is not tended to it will start to die. When plants are watered and fed their roots go deeper and are healthier. How deep is your love?

I will share five simple goals that Cindi included in her article. It may seem so basic but we just don’t do it.

  1. Start your day with a kiss.
  2. Say encouraging words to your spouse- Ephesians 4:29
  3. Plan a regular date night.
  4. Read through a relationship-building book together.
  5. Pray regularly.

If you have any doubt how deep your love is, go and re-read 1:Cor.13.

Make the investment in your marriage and make 2014 the best year yet. Thanks Cindi for the awesome challenge and insight.

Pastor Scott & Shannon White


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